Back when our team launched RainbowWeddingNetwork.com in September 2000, every New Year -in a long succession- brought the prospect of unpredictability and volatility with regard to LGBTQ+ marriage rights. That settled somewhat in 2015, with the passage of Obergefell vs Hodges, but here at the outset of 2025, things seem back to the times of high uncertainty. What's in store for our weddings and committed lives together this year?? Color palettes, cake flavors and gemstone symbolism seem to take a backseat... Yet it's important to remember that these things too, are important. We have to empower ourselves by claiming our own celebrations, and that includes not just a vision for a future of peace and equality, but also a sense of FUN, of indulging in considering current trends, and of cultivating inspiration.

Read on for a mix of Quick Wedding Planning Tips from couples, wedding pros, and our team here at RainbowWeddingNetwork. Enjoy considering all your options and the possibilities of creating Your Own Special Day, just as you want it to be!

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Remember that at the end of the day... if you’re married to the person you love, your wedding was a success. Minor details (and sometimes seemingly major ones!) might go wrong, but don’t let that distract you from what’s most important.

Layering Meaningfulness: Be sure to choose rituals and traditions that resonate strongly for each of you. Take time to craft your vows, either together or separately, with the help of your officiant or your bestie, and add in at least some personalization - even if it's simply a favorite quote or lyrics from a song. On the Big Day, consider carrying a small token in your pocket or tie it to your bouquet: your wedding rings and photographs will be with you forever, but another small keepsake that you can carry or later set somewhere special in your home is an added way to bring that feeling of Your Wedding Day back to life. Offer a small keepsake to your wedding guests that is similar: a small heart-shaped stone, for instance, that they too can carry the energy of your celebration with them into the future. -It's wonderful, and highly symbolic, to know that others are holding the vision of your union into the days ahead. You may find it comforting to lean on that from time to time.

Make sure you have a schedule for the day - a detailed timeline - and that anyone who is helping knows exactly where they need to be! Even if to you if seems silly to need to explain it, this way you have all your ducks in a row and no one can say you didn't tell them what to do or where to be! Share it with vendors, your wedding party, and family/friends who will be in formal photos. It's not "bridezilla" to want things a certain way, it's Your Day!

Sit down with your fiancee and talk about the top 3 weddings you've been to, read about or even seen in a movie, and what you liked most about them. Think about the rituals of the ceremony itself, the way the readings or the vows were included... think about the reception: the decor, the vibe, the level of interactivity for guests... Then prioritize your budget by what you recall as the most fun, meaningful and memorable.

Try and make some friends with other couples who are also getting married that you can talk with excessively about your wedding, bc only other people getting married care as much - your friends and family may not be as excited and want to talk about it as much as you do... and keeping the momentum alive is important: Find even a small tribe that you can chat it up with, to make the most of this fun and once-in-a-lifetime experience!!

Including Technology: Digital save-the-dates and invites are totally acceptable these days, and great budget savers. And even if you're eloping, consider using technology to capture the milestone: casual videos may become priceless later, and are a great way to share your special moment! Having a more formal celebration? Remember that VR and live-streaming are amazing options for your out-of-towners!

Be sure to envision the kind of ambience you want to create with your wedding: is it cozy and feelings of warmth and gathering together? Is it a hyped-up dance party? Is it a spotlighted focus on you and your partner? Is it a sentimental interconnection of family & friends? What adjectives describe your wedding: playful, spiritual, sentimental, bright, rustic, colorful, heartfelt, lively? Use these brainstorming ideas to build the priorities of what is not negotiable in your overall wedding plan.

Set your budget together and stick by it. You will be tempted by a lot (glowing foam sticks, fancy black envelopes, additional favors) but try and stick with your budget. Consider purchasing gently used items, there are TONS for sale online. Some decor items are even in really good condition at the local thrift stores!

Sustainability remains a top priority for many LGBTQ+ couples. From sourcing local and seasonal flowers to using eco-friendly decor and catering, couples are embracing green practices. Smaller, intimate weddings or “microweddings” continue to be popular, reducing the environmental footprint.

Prioritize the most important parts of the event (photographer, venue, food, dancing, number of guests, etc, whatever you value most) and spend your money on booking those areas first! Everything else is just details and can be done on a budget with some creativity and time - for example, budget most for photographer and venue/food, but DIY the florals, including having your wedding party people make their own bouquets after the rehearsal dinner!

Stay organized and keep taking small steps forward. Wedding planning is A LOT and can be very overwhelming. Don’t be afraid to take breaks.

Unique Entertainment Choices? Yes, please!! Couples today are thinking outside the box when it comes to entertainment. Drag performers, queer artists, and interactive installations are making weddings more vibrant and memorable. Karaoke sessions, live bands, dance instruction and even unique options such as magicians, interactive keepsake stations, emceed couples' bingo games and other ideas also continue to gain traction: whatever suits the couple's interests and helps to bring guests together!  See RWN's recent article for further interactive ideas!
https://www.rainbowweddingnetwork.com/wedding-tips/unique-interactive-reception-ideas

Celebrating Chosen Families - Finding ways to include and honor our families of choice is vital to our community! From participation as attendants, with readings, mentions in toasts, or creating a special thank-you table with messages and photos, to announce just how important your loved ones are: all great ways to bring together and interconnect your special people. After all, LGBTQ+ weddings inherently highlight the importance of authenticity, inclusivity, and love. Make the most of this theme!

For more ways to connect with other couples and LGBTQ+ wedding pros, please visit our Tips & Articles page:
https://www.rainbowweddingnetwork.com/tips-planning

And consider joining RWN's lively FB group! Ideas & support abound!  (Many of the above insights came from group members!)
https://www.facebook.com/groups/LGBTQWeddings

Q&A with Michael Vescio – Director of Sales / Discover DeKalb Convention and Visitors Bureau

Here at RWN, we love to celebrate the advocates and allies who support the tenets of equality! Our voices are stronger when we stand together!

Congratulations to our friends from Discover DeKalb Convention and Visitors Bureau, on their recent award from the OUT Georgia Business Alliance. Their organization, Discover DeKalb, must be so proud to have received the prestigious Corporate Ally of the Year Award!

As the intro on their website states:
"Welcome to DeKalb, Georgia! In DeKalb everyone is welcome, so bring your authentic self — whether you’re an outdoor adventurer, craft-beer enthusiast, history buff, on the hunt for your next favorite meal, or looking for family-friendly attractions — DeKalb has something for everyone in the car (including the dog)."

Many of our readers may not realize just how much Convention & Visitors Bureaus, Tourist Organizations and even Neighborhood Groups do to support their LGBTQ+ citizens. These organizations provide residents and out-of-towners with valuable info about local events, businesses and attractions. Their staff knows firsthand the details about local cuisine, new start-ups, neighborhood identities, current happenings and much more, so they can offer helpful insights to both locals and tourists. Discounts and many other resources can be found through Convention & Visitors Bureaus; sometimes even hands-on services such as basic wedding planning guidance and trip itinerary assistance!

Hi Mike! Congratulations again, and THANKS to you and Discover DeKalb for all you do in supporting the local LGBTQ+ community there in the suburbs of Atlanta! Can you tell us some of the services Discover DeKalb offers?

MV: Please say “I Do” in DeKalb - yes, we offer free wedding services!
Itinerary /Packaging Services
FREE On-Site Parking at our 70 Hotels
Competitive Hotel Bids – in the Cities We Represent
Chamblee, Tucker, Stonecrest, Stone Mountain and DeKalb County
Restaurants/Attractions and Transportation Discounts
FAM Opportunities – Visit Our Area – See What We Have To Offer

Can you share with us some of the ways that Discover DeKalb specifically supports the LGBTQ+ community?

MV: Yearly Sponsorship with the Out GA Business Alliance
Sponsor regular monthly events – 4th Friday’s with the LGBTQ+ Chamber
Provide quarterly educational meetings to our Stakeholders, Board of Directors and Partners in the LGBTQ+ market
We participate yearly in RainbowWeddingNetwork's Atlanta LGBTQ+ Wedding Expo
Run print ads in the Out On Film Program
Run ad yearly in Pridely
An ad with GA Voice yearly in the Gay Destination Atlanta Guide
Also participate yearly with Black Gay Pride, Atlanta Pride and AIDS Atlanta
We developed an LGBTQ+ Destination Guide that won an award with the Southeast Tourism Society – Best Niche Marketing Award / This piece is displayed at the 9 GA state visitor centers – they have over 13 million visitors yearly
We have a staff member dedicated to this market – DeKalb is very diverse – we welcome everyone!

What are some of the highlights of DeKalb County GA that would most appeal to LGBTQ+ tourists or those considering a relocation to the area?

MV: Lips – Drag Dining - Doraville
Close to Piedmont Park – host of Atlanta Pride Festival
Mary’s – Karaoke Bar
Charis Books

As we all look ahead to a new Presidential administration, there is some uncertainty with regard to equal access and fair treatment for members of the LGBTQ+ community. How can Convention & Visitors Bureaus, Tourist Organizations and even Neighborhood Groups find ways to support their LGBTQ+ citizens?

MV: We just need to continue to support these events thru Sponsorships. Don’t just talk the talk – we must walk the walk. It is more important now than ever.

Are there broader ways that Discover DeKalb helps individuals get involved with what you're organization is doing, or helps individuals interconnect above and beyond your own specific services?

MV: Nothing any broader – just be involved locally, participate and speak up.

Why do you feel that it's important for organizations like yours to actively support, specifically, the LGBTQ+ niche?

MV: It is crucial for all Tourism agencies to support all markets – thru their money and involvement.

We invite all our readers to check out not only Discover DeKalb, but also their own local Convention & Visitors Bureaus, Tourist Organizations and  Neighborhood Groups...  You may be surprised at just how many resources are available to you, from saving money through discounts, to basic wedding and honeymoon planning services, helpful info about stay-cations, weekend adventuring and much more!  As you travel to other cities, check out their Convention & Visitors Bureaus also:  many have services dedicated to supporting the LGBTQ+ community!

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Michael Vescio – Director of Sales
Discover DeKalb Convention and Visitors Bureau
Direct: 770-492-5012
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One reason Weddings (and oftentimes the holiday season) fill our hearts is that we tend to focus more on noticing Joy... GOOD NEWS!  -It's possible to extend that feeling! There are many uncertainties as we journey toward 2025: Let's find ways to cultivate Love & Peace wherever we may find ourselves.

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Continue Uplifting Others - Our community is known for its motivation and committment to building connections! Remember to keep adding new ways of outreach, even through the New Year, to fill your own heart with joy and active purposefulness. Volunteer opportunities abound! Your local LGBTQ+ community center, animal rescue organization, assisted living facility, Habitat for Humanity and many others are great starting points: indulge in brainstorming about your own interests or hobbies and then find a volunteer opportunity that best suits.  Even if you don't have the time or inclination to participate in-person, remember there are always other ways to get involved:  crocheting lap quilts, sending handwritten cards, assisting with fundraising or administrative tasks.

Mentoring, or providing your own talents, are other ideas. Organizations that support LGBTQ+ youth are certainly in need right now. Or, consider offering your services as an officiant or amateur floral designer for another LGBTQ+ couple in the wedding planning stages either for their full ceremony or their elopement. 

Social Organizations - The local LGBTQ+ choir, sports team or hiking club are likely welcoming new members!  Allowing yourself to express your own talents and passions feeds your sense of happiness.  It's important to make this one a priority as much as possible!

Speak Up for Neighborhood Improvements - Finding ways to empower yourself through bettering the local area is a vibrant way not only to find fulfillment, but to make new friends. Is there a park in need of a clean-up day? Would you like to see bike lanes in the city? Reach out to local officials, or join advocacy groups. Even consider running for local office or interning with someone who already holds office - the ripple effects of your efforts are always worthwhile!

Create a FUN Community Event! Divisiveness in our nation doesn't have to be the way forward. Find ways to organize a 5K fun-run or neighborhood potluck or picnic, and base the theme on local history just to help interconnect people and create common ground. Amateur pet show or pet food donation event, or community bake-off, or book club..? Absolutely!

Random Acts of Kindness - We all know how nice it is to find that our order at the drive-thru has been paid in advance by the person ahead of us... Finding opportunities to pay-it-forward and to offer a helping hand are easy ways to sprinkle a little extra goodwill into your days.

Attend Local Workshops and Skill-Building Sessions - Community centers, libraries, and educational institutions often offer free or low-cost workshops on a range of topics. Attending these sessions not only helps you develop new skills but also provides an opportunity to meet like-minded individuals.

Meaningful Online Connections - Of course the internet offers incredible opportunities to find your tribe. It's not always easy to weed through the forums and groups that are not ideal, but be persistent and mindful: Engaging with people online can be so convenient, and a helpful lifeline in times of stress. It can also be a simple way to share Joy!  Check out RainbowWeddingNetwork's lively wedding group and meet couples from around the country, and the world!  https://www.facebook.com/groups/LGBTQWeddings

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Again, the months ahead hold a lot of unknowns.  But by keeping ourselves focused on what's most important:  sowing Peace, Trust, Fairness, Happiness, Kindness, Gratitude...  we make our world a little less divisive and a little less stressful.  By volunteering, attending events, supporting local causes, building relationships, and taking responsibility for your own sense of Optimism, you become part of something bigger than yourself. The sense of connection, purpose, and pride you choose to cultivate can transform your everyday life into one filled with Joy and Empowerment.

Looking for a few more ways to help your wedding guests actively enjoy your Special Day? Interactive stations continue to trend, from catered food selections to tabletop games, from selfie stations to dessert and beverage options that are self-serve. What about Favors & Keepsakes?

Creating an interactive area at your reception, for guests to contribute time and talent toward a memorable Keepsake for you and your new spouse... or Favors for themselves... is easy! Your Wedding Designer will have wonderful insights & ideas, but here are a few to get you started.

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• Interactive DIY Floral Arrangements

Set a nook at your reception with a table and all the necessities for guests to piece together their own mini floral arrangement: small vases or bottles along with optional paints or multicolored indelible markers (to decorate the vases), a variety of wildflowers, greenery, thin branches, long feathers, ribbons, etc... Add a sign letting guests know they're invited to become their own floral designer and voila! simple favors every guest can take home, with a collection of organic beauty and fragrance.

• Budget-friendly Tic Tac Toe Favors

4 short pieces of yarn... 10 faux jewels / gemstones / buttons of two varying colors... 1 small organza favor bag

Pick stones or buttons in bulk online or from the craft store, along with yarn and favor bags... Be sure to choose hues in your ceremony colors! Create one bag full of goodies for each family attending your wedding, and place in a basket on each reception table. You can add a sign, or not: it's fun just to let the guests discover for themselves what the game is inside!  Interactive in a different way, as guests set up their own gameboards and compete with one another during the quieter moments of your reception.

• Interactive Scrapbook Station

Invite your guests to create a priceless keepsake for you!

Create a table with all your favorite scrapbooking supplies: miscellaneous papers, crafting scissors, ribbon, wedding-, honeymoon and love-related stickers, unique embellishments, dried flowers and leaves, various photos of you & your sweetie, glue or sticky-dots... Be sure to set the full scrapbook up on an easel for all to see and to gather inspiration from others' contributions.

Or... Change it up and invite guests to create their own mini scrapbook or framed photo favor:

Provide mini-scrapbook supplies, or small undecorated wooden frames (buy in bulk in the DIY section - some are tabletop, others are magnetic) along with paints or indelible markers, stickers, embellishments, etc plus wallet-size engagement photos - a quick-to-craft Favor everyone can take home!

• Prayers & Best Wishes

Provide an assortment of stones (there are polished and unpolished in varying sizes available at retail stores, or scavenge for your own directly from Mother Nature during the months leading up to the wedding!), along with indelible markers and a large basket, vase or wooden bowl... Invite guests to write a single word of hope or a short message on their chosen stone, and place it in the collection for you and your new spouse to take home after the ceremony. The two of you will treasure picking a stone, either daily or whenever the mood strikes, to be re-invigorated by the well-wishes of your chosen circle of loved ones, well into the future!

Optional: also provide small notecards (thick cardstock preferred) of some kind, in case some guests prefer to share longer verses or words of wisdom. Can easily mix the cards in with the stones!

• Beverage Stations - lil keepsake box of recipes

Letting your guests play mixologist or barista?? Absolutely! Let them in on the fun! Be sure to have a deck of blank recipe cards nearby, or a special book, so everyone can jot down their favorite concoctions: it will become a special keepsake for you... and a guide for future party cocktails that you can share again and again!

There are countless ideas online about which beverage options to choose based on your preferences, the time, location, theme and season of your wedding celebration, your particular guest list, etc. But here are just a few of our faves!

Mimosa Bar:
Champagne or prosecco, a rainbow of juice options (orange, guava, mango, pineapple...), fruit wedges, herbs, pomegranate seeds, etc for garnishes. Offer peach puree as an option as well, so guests can create their own bellini if they prefer!

Mason Jar Cuties:
Prepare (or better yet, have your Caterer or Beverage vendor prep!...) your favorite sangria or custom infused cocktail in single-serve mason jars. The tops can be decorated with fabric, rustic bows, or just left plain for a truly folksy effect. Grab & go!

Coolin' Off with Mocktails:
Party pitchers or dispensers of water / lemonade / iced tea / juices, plus an array of fruits and herbs for infusing: mint, lemons, oranges, strawberries, raspberries, cucumbers, pineapple, limes, basil, ginger. Can ramp this up by setting vodka nearby for guests to partake if preferred!

ADD TO THE FUN of your Beverage Station by adding:

rock candy sticks (in rainbow colors, of course!)
edible flowers
mini umbrellas
cinnamon sticks
licorice sticks
fun-flavored lollipops for dipping
single-serve portions of cotton candy
customized koozies or coasters as take-away favors for your guests

So many brides, grooms and attendants in the LGBTQ+ community wonder about formal wear options for weddings. RWN had the opportunity recently to catch up with the staff at Tailored Brands, to collect a few answers!

RWN:  What are the basic services Tailored Brands offers? Do you offer resources for both men and women?
At Men’s Wearhouse we offer everything from casual wear to Custom Tuxedos. We service all people whether they are renting, purchasing or creating their own custom look.

Tailored Brands includes Men’s Wearhouse along with a number of other familiar companies: Jos. A. Bank and Moores; and family retailer K&G Fashion Superstore!
https://www.tailoredbrands.com/#

RWN:  Are clients able to try on apparel in your stores, the first day they visit? Are there catalogues to browse? What is the process for picking out favorites, trying on selections, all the way through making the purchase?

We offer physical and digital options. During a visit to one of our stores, one of our consultants will walk through the options and offer best suggestions based on the particular customer’s needs.

RWN:  What general trends are you seeing with regard to wedding apparel?
There’s an irresistible charm to a suit that never goes out of style. A well-tailored suit is a tried-and-true way to stand out.

A fine wool suit in rich navy or dark burgundy, perfect for the cool weather. There are plenty of dress shirts you could choose for this look, but for maximum seasonal spirit in the Fall, opt for warm tones like burnt orange or deep shades like a subtle plum. Swapping the typical silk tie for a bow tie or knit tie to add texture and intrigue to the ensemble.

RWN:  Do your store team members offer advice and insights to brides and grooms who may not be very familiar with dress codes, options and other fundamentals of choosing wedding attire?
Yes, Wedding season brings excitement and joy, but it also comes along with an age-old question—what to wear? Don’t worry, we’ve got the answer for you! We have a comprehensive guide that will help you navigate the world of wedding dress codes, giving you everything you need to step into any celebration with confidence.

RWN:  Many of the women we meet at our LGBTQ+ Wedding Expos are seeking customized, tailored suits... What level of customization do you offer? What kind of customization is available with regard to gowns? Are alterations done on-site?
While we don’t offer gowns, we do offer custom suits. We have tailors on-site and can also take in outside clothing for alterations.

RWN:  Are some of your services available online, or is it best for customers to visit in-store?
Most of our services are available online including our Wedding Group Manager. Use our online group management tool to coordinate your wedding party from day one. Assign looks, send invites to party members and keep tabs on progress to send reminders. But for tailoring needs, it’s best to visit one of our stores.

RWN:  What sets your company apart from others that offer similar services?
You can rent your tux or suit and return it after your event, purchase your look for a lifetime of memories, or build a custom suit and celebrate in a style all your own.
• Rental Best Price Guarantee
• Size Inclusive Selection
• 600+ locations nationwide

RWN:  What advice do you have for those considering the purchase of their wedding attire?
The advantages of owning a tuxedo are significant. First, the fit is unmatched; tailored to your exact measurements, it ensures you always present a flawless look. Then, there’s the matter of choice: endless styles, fabrics, and details await, enabling you to fully express your personal style.

Tailored Brands includes Men’s Wearhouse along with a number of other familiar companies: Jos. A. Bank and Moores; and family retailer K&G Fashion Superstore!
https://www.tailoredbrands.com/#

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Interested in further inspiration and options? Check out some of RWN's other favorite apparel companies!

Bespokuture
Bespokuture is a full-service custom clothing brand offering beautifully crafted garments, shoes and leather goods for men & women across the nation. We take our time, we don’t take shortcuts, and we hand-stitch amazing pieces that each client falls in love with.
https://bespokuture.com

Grace + Ivory
Dream bridal gowns within your budget, made to measure, try at home, benefiting women's programs: Forget the "middlemen!"
https://www.graceandivory.com/

Ruth Nathan's
Ruth Nathan’s is a purveyor of fine face masks, matching bow ties, pocket squares, and lapel flowers made for the Urban Peacock.
https://ruthnathans.com

a&bé bridal shop
...For the bride who relates to the modern aesthetic, the free-spirited ethos, & the romantic spirit.
https://aandbebridalshop.com/

Lila Pants
Formal wear options for the kids at your ceremony! Be sure to read the About Us page!
https://lilapants.com/

The very best tips for planning your wedding usually come from friends, family and other couples. -Sharing their recent experiences, others can provide helpful insights that are hands-on, thoughtful and really well targeted. Read on for a few comments from some of the couples we've recently met at RainbowWeddingNetwork's LGBTQ+ Wedding Expos, or through our lively FB group!

"We are big gardeners, so we had a very rustic look to our wedding: lots of wildflowers for decor, my wife's dress was accented with lily-of-the-valley embroidery work... The reception decor was so rustic, with little corners at the venue set with comfy chairs and chalkboard signs, etc. This barn-style venue offered long wooden tables with a family-style dinner, and again, lots of mason jars of wildflowers on the tables (and everywhere, honestly!)  But the unique part was that instead of traditional gifts, we requested that our guests donate to a fund to help us rebuild the garden in our yard, and for additional landscaping projects. We had recently bought a new home and this idea was just such a wonderful fit for us - made our wedding even that much more personalized and memorable: every time we work in our newly refurbished garden area, we think of Our Special Day, and all our loved ones who helped us feather our nest!"

-Janice & Kaitlin

"We needed a way to include out-of-towners so a live stream of our wedding ceremony and a bit of our reception made sense. We made a point to notify those family members who refused to attend (b/c they didn't support our marriage) and we notified them in a couple of different ways, hoping they would tune in. Some of them did! It meant a lot to us."

-Graham & Alyx

"Handcrafting our own wedding bands was an incredibly meaningful experience!  Highly recommend finding a craftsperson or jeweler who will work with you and provide you with this opportunity.  You and your fiancee will bond over this experience more than you realize, cherish the memories forever, and the wedding rings will be that much more customized."

-Jason & Derrick

"Not big cake people!! So we had an ice cream bar instead, with a variety of flavors from the traditional and the whimsical (cookie dough, rainbow sprinkles...) to the more refined such as mango and pineapple, etc. We also offered drunken sorbet (Nieve de Garrafa, really... The Sparkling Wine-spiked Coconut Passionfruit sorbet was to die for!)... Instead of the traditional cake-cutting ceremony to top off the festivities at the reception, we instead gathered everyone in front of the ice cream bar, opened a fresh bottle of champagne, and toasted each other. We even said a few words to each other that we hadn't gotten a chance to say during our vows (bc we're kind of chatty that way). It was really touching and no one missed the cake, I assure you!!"

-KC & Daniela

"We wanted to get playful with our guests so going with a theme wedding was the right choice for us.  We invited everyone to dress up to fit in with the theme (vintage, 1920's, plus hints of rainbow) and it really made things a lot of fun. One of the interactive games we played was 'Guess Who' to help guests circulate and chat with each other, and they had to take selfies throughout the game - it really worked out so well!"

-Hayleigh & Marche

"I think finding a way to include all the kids who attended in the ceremony helped them own the event a little bit, and helped them stay calm and focused throughout the rest of the wedding. What we did was give each of our nieces, nephews, friends' children (who wanted to participate) a basket of goodies to hand out to the seated guests as they waited for the ceremony to begin. Each basket contained either a fabric bag of flower petals, bubbles, one of our programs or a keepsake favor (a small magnet with our engagement photo and our newly chosen surname: 'Cheers from The Pelhams!' ...The kids enjoyed taking part, the guests loved seeing them wander through the aisles, and it made for some adorable photos."

-Adam & Danny

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Have a tip you'd like to share?  Share your story & insights anytime - our readers will love hearing all about it!

Weddings are a celebration of love, commitment, and the beginning of a beautiful journey together. While traditional weddings hold a timeless charm, an increasing number of couples are opting for themed weddings to infuse their special day with extra personality and excitement. In this article, we explore why a themed wedding can be a fantastic choice, allowing couples to showcase their unique style, create unforgettable memories, and delight guests with an immersive experience.

1. Expression of Individuality:
Themed weddings provide a platform for couples to express their true selves and embrace their passions. Whether it's a fairy tale inspired by favorite storybooks, a nod to a beloved fandom, or a celebration of a shared interest, a themed wedding allows couples to showcase their personalities in a creative and unique way. It creates a memorable experience that reflects who they are as individuals and as a couple.

2. Unforgettable Atmosphere:
When you choose a theme for your wedding, you transform the venue into a world of its own. From decorations to attire, everything is carefully planned to create an immersive experience for everyone involved. Guests will feel transported to a different time, place, or story, providing them with a sense of enchantment and excitement. The carefully curated ambiance ensures that your wedding becomes an unforgettable event that guests will talk about fondly for years to come.

3. Enhanced Guest Experience:
Themed weddings inject a sense of fun and anticipation into the guest experience. Just think of the joy on your loved ones' faces as they receive unique and personalized invitations that set the tone for the theme. A themed wedding allows guests to fully immerse themselves in the celebration, encouraging them to dress up in accordance with the theme, participate in themed activities, and even enjoy cuisine inspired by the chosen theme. Such an interactive and engaging experience keeps guests thoroughly entertained and creates lasting memories for everyone involved.

4. Enhanced Decor and Design Opportunities:
Themed weddings offer couples limitless creative opportunities when it comes to decor and design. Be it a rustic, vintage, beach, or fantasy-themed wedding, the possibilities are endless. From customized centerpieces and table settings to unique lighting and backdrops, a themed wedding allows you to bring your vision to life in a way that traditional weddings cannot. It also provides an opportunity to incorporate personalized and sentimental elements that hold special meaning to you as a couple.

5. A Day to Remember:
The ultimate goal of any wedding is to create a day that is uniquely yours, filled with joy, laughter, and unforgettable moments. Themed weddings provide the perfect canvas for achieving this, as they allow you to curate an experience that reflects your interests and passions. Whether it's the surprise element of a superhero themed reception or the whimsical charm of a Harry Potter-inspired ceremony, a themed wedding will ensure that your special day is etched in the memories of all who attend.

In a world where individuality and self-expression are encouraged, themed weddings have become a popular choice for couples. The ability to exhibit personal style, create an unforgettable atmosphere, provide an immersive experience for guests, and unleash your creativity in design and decor are just a few reasons why themed weddings are a wonderful choice. So, don't be afraid to step outside the boundaries of tradition and embark on an enchanting journey that is uniquely yours. Embrace the fun and individuality of a themed wedding, and let your love story come alive in a celebration that will be cherished by all.

Laying a strong financial foundation is essential for a happy and successful marriage, emphasizing the importance of effective money management. Implementing strategic financial practices allows you to navigate your shared finances with confidence and unity. Together, you'll discover the keys to managing your money effectively, ensuring a future filled with happiness and success. By adopting these strategies, your journey will be marked by financial security and mutual prosperity.

Harmonizing Financial Visions
Discussing your dreams and how you envision your future together is a beautiful starting point. Whether dreaming of a cozy home filled with laughter, adventures in far-off lands, or a secure, comfortable retirement, sharing these visions brings you closer. It’s about more than just listing desires; it’s about understanding each other's values and finding common ground where your financial paths align. This unity in purpose is your first step toward a future crafted by both of you, for both of you.

Elevating Earnings Through Education
Consider furthering your education to amplify your earning potential. For instance, get your computer science degree online to learn about networking, cybersecurity, and cloud computing and significantly boost your career prospects. This investment in personal growth enriches your professional path and solidifies your financial base. It empowers you to chase your dreams with more resources and confidence. Together, you strengthen not just your careers but also the financial durability of your partnership.

Fostering Financial Transparency
Creating a space where you can openly discuss your financial situations is crucial. Sharing details about incomes, expenses, and debts demystifies financial management and builds a foundation of trust. This transparency is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship, where both feel safe to express their concerns, aspirations, and achievements, fostering a partnership where financial decisions are made together.

Laying the Foundations for Homeownership
Embarking on the journey to homeownership is a significant milestone. By starting to save early for a down payment, you're taking a proactive step toward realizing this dream. Understanding the home-buying process together ensures you're both informed and prepared to make decisions that will affect your future, turning the dream of a shared home into reality.

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Sharing Expenses Fairly
Establishing a fair and equitable system for managing expenses acknowledges the unique financial situation of each partner. It’s about finding a balance that respects both contributions, regardless of disparity in earnings, ensuring that no one feels overburdened. This approach to shared financial responsibility strengthens your partnership, ensuring that both feel valued and supported.

Cultivating Wise Spending Practices
Exploring ways to optimize your spending can transform your financial landscape. By adopting smart budgeting techniques, planning meals, and leveraging discounts, you can enjoy a fulfilling lifestyle while nurturing your savings. These habits are about making informed choices that reflect your values and priorities as a couple, ensuring that every dollar spent brings you closer to your shared goals.

Establishing a Safety Net
Building an emergency fund is like creating a safety net for your future. This fund, designed to cover several months of living expenses, ensures that you're prepared for life's unexpected turns. By prioritizing this financial cushion, you protect your dreams and the life you're building together from unforeseen challenges.

Investing in Your Joint Future
Securing your long-term financial well-being involves making informed investments. Whether it's contributing to retirement accounts or exploring other investment avenues, these steps are about planting seeds for a future that blossoms with security and prosperity. Together, you're not just investing money; you're investing in your shared dreams and the life you envision together.

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Align your financial goals and boost your earning potential through education, setting a foundation for prosperity and happiness. Enhance your relationship with open communication about money, fostering understanding and support. By managing your finances together, you're not just securing your future but also crafting a legacy of love and partnership. These strategies ensure a journey filled with financial harmony and shared dreams.

Plan your dream LGBTQ+ wedding with an extensive list of friendly vendors and expos from Rainbow Wedding Network.   ...And invite your wedding guests to help contribute to your Dream Honeymoon, setting the foundation for a future together built on financial choices that are both sensible and FUN!

Your Wedding Day is finally here!!

A few quick tips to keep in mind as you prep for Your Special Day:

*Pack a small bag, backpack or even a small suitcase - it is so convenient to have one place to keep things like your wallet, keys, phone, speeches, vows, notes, vendor phone numbers, travel itinerary, etc. Don't forget the phone chargers or extra camera batteries!

*Don't forget any necessary garment bags or apparel accessories! Hat? Suspenders?

*Remember to pack an assortment of 'just-in-case' items, such as safety pins, hair accessories if necessary, comb/brush, mirror, extra make-up, cologne, bottled water, small snack items, breath mints. It's also good to consider bringing a minimal amount of first aid items - you never know when a small bandaid or pain reliever might be needed!

Other things to consider bringing along:

*planner book w phone numbers, timeline and notes
*guest list
*copy of event insurance
*extra earrings, in case one gets lost or misplaced
*an extra tie
*extra set of nylons or hose, in case of tears
*checkbook, if applicable
*additional personal care items, as may be needed
*favorite essential oils
*sewing kit
*stain remover
*extra guitar strings or other applicable items
*scissors (you never know!)
*a lighter
*masking or duct tape (a lesbian must-have!)
*umbrellas
*jacket or wrap

*Remember to bring along any of those special Gift Bags or Cards that you've bought in advance for your officiant, special guests or attendants, or for your Sweetie!

*Do you plan to incorporate a special Bible or other keepsake item into the ceremony? Special champagne flutes or cake server? Guest Book? Is it all ready to go?

*Rings or ring pillow?

*Apparel you'll change in to for the reception? Comfortable shoes for later?

*Vows? If you hand-wrote these and your officiant is not responsible for your copy... be sure you have it on the Big Day! And what about the marriage certificate? -Usually your officiant will handle all the legal documents, but it's good to be sure!

*Pets involved with the ceremony? Is there a bag of supplies ready to go?

*Special Signs or other Decor Items?

*Caketopper? Has this already been provided to your cake provider... or not??

*Any Keepsakes or Favors you need to take along? And bring along some extra Invitations and Programs... to hand out as keepsakes if necessary.

*Snack items can be wonderful during the upcoming hectic schedule, to help settle a nervous tummy or thwart a stress headache. And if you pick just the right granola bar or favorite munchie, you can rest assured it will be on hand just when you need it... Even a preferred type of tea bag or soft drink isn't a bad idea! Be sure to pick out an assortment, and keep in mind that you'll want something with a low-mess factor. -Bring extras if possible, for attendants or your Sweetie!

*Honeymoon Luggage? Taking off immediately after your wedding? Don't forget your bags, passport, etc!

HAVE A WONDERFUL ...and ease-y... CELEBRATION!!

For many couples, picking out their Reception Venue is the keystone to getting a real jumpstart on their wedding plans. After all, you must make sure of the place and time in order to begin filling in all those other vital details, such as how many guests can be invited... what type of theme, colors or decor fit in just right... whether or not you'll have in-house catering or hire elsewhere... And something about making that final selection about your Venue helps many of the other planning decisions just start to domino in to place.

Read on for helpful insights and tips about what considerations are best to keep in mind as you make this all-important decision: How to Choose Your Ideal Reception Venue!

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Prioritize what you really want in a Venue.

This is a conversation to have with your partner, as well as your wedding planner and perhaps anyone else who is integral to helping put together the details of Your Special Day. Take time to review and update this list several times throughout the early planning stages!

*Budget
*Indoor / Outdoor Facilities
*Does their Fee include All Amenities, or will you have to rent tables, linens, decor etc...
*In-House Caterer? Does their food suit your tastes and preferences?
*In-House Baker?
*In-House Planner?
*Robust List of Preferred Vendors?  Are they screened to be LGBTQ+ friendly?
*Worked with LGBTQ+ Couples Before?
*What is their Deposit amount? Is it refundable (partially or in full) in case of date changes? What is the payment schedule, and when is the full amount due?
*What specifics do they outline with regard to Decor Options; are there limitations?
*What insurance do they require from you / from participating vendors?

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In the beginning... Keep things casual!

Try not to get your hearts set on one particular Venue, especially in the early days of planning. Instead, have some less formal conversations with each other and with friends and family about the celebration you envision... Let the FUN be the focus as you begin preliminary research into Venue options. Browse online not just for specifics, but look at imagery and think about what qualities are important to you with regard to the backdrop for your reception. Is your celebration rustic, or high-tech? Where will the two of you sit during the celebration, and what does that look like? -Will you be at a Head Table, at one of many large rounds, or alongside your guests at a long communal dinner table? Will your party include dancing and how large a dance floor will that be? Will there be separate areas for interactive food stations or interactive party activities (such as a more private kids' area, or an artsy table dedicated to creating keepsakes?...)

Create a few brainstorming pages in your planning notebook, simply about the QUALITIES you are most drawn to in a venue... The details about location, rates, etc will be something to consider a little later on!

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Preliminary Research & NETWORKING

Ask other vendors and wedding professionals what venues they LOVE working with... Even if you haven't booked a vendor yet, as you interview with them or meet them out in passing, go ahead and inquire about their input and referrals! They are usually happy to share their experience and insights. Be sure to also ask other couples, family and friends, especially those recently married, or those who have attended or helped organize either corporate or large social events.

Pay attention to the details they offer: which venue's staff is super-welcoming and accommodating... Which are the best communicators... Any hiccups with scheduling? Be bold and ask which venues they would NOT recommend as well. That's important information!

Browse Online Resources: It's great (and really helpful!) to check out LGBTQ+ friendly listings of wedding professionals (such as ours, online at www.RainbowWeddingNetwork.com) However... as you begin researching options, consider expanding how you find the Venues in the first place. Search for community events, and check out which facility hosted. For instance, where was the recent Pride After-Party? What venue has ongoing tea dances for the community? Do you see that one brand name keeps coming up in your searches as particularly supportive of the community? Which venues have LGBTQ+ welcoming badges, language and graphics on their websites and promo materials?

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Quick Tips from the Pros...

*Choose the venue that speaks to YOU. Don't select a venue because someone else wants you to. And if selecting an outdoor venue, be sure they have a "plan B" that you like as much as the outdoor venue. Also, remember that price isn't everything....you have to connect with your venue contact, otherwise the process will not be a fun one!"

Sandi Franklin, Director of Catering
Hilton Atlanta Northeast / 5993 Peachtree Industrial Blvd. / Ptree Corners, GA 30092-3416
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https://www.hilton.com/en/hotels/atlhphf-hilton-atlanta-northeast/

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Online Directories

Remember, there are several online resources nowadays that offer listings of vendors that are actively supportive of the LGBTQ+ community. Why not use these, instead of more generic websites? That way you and your fiancee can rest assured that the vendors you're considering are known to uphold a policy of non-discrimination... and that they are eager to welcome you and your event with joyfulness, respect and professionalism.

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Yep, lean on those REVIEWS...

-Learning from others' experiences is so very convenient & informative! Scour for reviews... don't just rely on the ones that are easy to find. Dig deep, and read many so that you can make discerning inferences. Take time to read into the less obvious details for insghtful clues about what it will really be like to work with a particular venue's staff.

Are there any notes about ways this particular venue's team made an event seamless? Look for the good stuff, not just the criticisms... and if those successes match up with priorities you also have, that goes a long way to telling you this venue might just be a perfect fit!

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Important QUESTIONS to ASK...

When you meet face-to-face with the staff at a Venue, be prepared with several questions. You want to treat this like an interview and make sure it is, in fact, a good fit for your celebration!

**Basic Facts:
How many people can the venue accommodate? How many hours does your rental package include? How far out should I book if I want a particular date? What is your fee schedule and what is your refund policy? How many weddings take place at your venue on any given day? Are there any restrictions, including decor restrictions? Do you have liability insurance, or do we purchase our own? Can we hire any outside wedding vendors, or are there limitations? Can you tell me what vendor set-up, load-in and load-out is like at your venue? Are certain features and furniture items that we can rearrange for our celebration?

*In-house wedding planning team, coordinator or other key players?
Be sure you meet with them also, and that you're assured the ones you actually meet are the point-people who will stay with you through the entire process leading up to your wedding date. You want to minimize staff changes, simply so you feel comfortable that your needs and requests are not being overlooked... and so that you can remain at ease knowing that whomever you are working with is LGBTQ+ friendly.

*Difference between PLANNING for and EXECUTION of your event.
Succesfully seing your wedding celebration through from the preliminary stages of planning, all the way to the wonderful Special Day, involves a lot of elements. And it's true that some wedding pros are really great at planning, and some are really great at pulling together all those details and making everything happen the day-of. Quiz your Venue staff in ways that help you gather information about the particulars they provide both during the early stages of planning, mid-stages, just prior to your event, and the day-of. Try to get specific about how much time they are willing to be available for you, especially the two weeks prior to your ceremony date: you want to be sure they are going to make you and your celebration a priority!

*Do you offer an all-inclusive Fee Package?
When working with a Venue, depending on the various amenities, you might find yourself responsible for gratuities, bartenders' fees, additional charges for access to the couples' suite, plus there will be service fees and taxes. Ask about all this, and request to see an itemized sample bill so you are as informed as possible. You want to be sure your choice in Venues fits in your budget - this will alleviate undue stress and ensure that the rest of your planning details can be handled without cutting corners.

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Quick Tips from the Pros...

One thing I tell my clients when they visit our venue is "prepare to go out to a meal afterward (breakfast, lunch, dinner doesn't matter)." This gives time to immediately talk over what you did and did not like about the venue as well as if the banquet manager drove you crazy, you may need a glass of wine, beer or even a shot lol. -Taking time to sit down and talk things through, make notes, etc will ensure that you recall all the important pros and cons of the particular location as you consider and move forward with your plans.
LisaLynn Mauriello, general manager
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Renaissance Event Hall
27-34 21st Street / Long Island City, NY 11102
www.renaissanceeventhall.com

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COMMUNICATION STYLES

When meeting with the staff at the Venues you're considering, listen to what they're sharing with you... Are they keeping details sparse, or boring...? Are they asking the two of you questions, so they can really get a sense of your plans? Are they inviting and eliciting ideas from you, to help expand and build on your vision; helping to build the excitement? All of these point to how your relationship with this Venue will unfold... Keep these important communication styles in mind as you consider booking: you definitely want to feel at ease dialoguing with your on-site Venue team!

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Wedding Expos

Keep in mind that many of the traditional bridal fairs won't be as welcoming to LGBTQ+ couples, but keep an eye out for events in your area that seem promising. Attend a few: you never know what great connections you might make! And when you do find a wedding professional you resonate with, be sure to ask them a few questions about referrals to Venues as well as other types of wedding providers. Their experience can really help point you in helpful directions!

Remember, RainbowWeddingNetwork.com has been producing an ongoing National Tour of LGBTQ+ Wedding Expos since 2003! Our team has visited 37 states and produced well over 300 events since that time. Each and every vendor who participates is actively supportive of Equal Rights and is eager to support you in planning the wedding of your dreams. We pride ourselves on creating an atmosphere that is uplifting, productive, relaxed and fun: Our events provide a wonderful backdrop for meeting vendors, touring amazing venues, and meeting other couples in the area who are also planning their own celebrations. Events like ours are convenient ways to network, find and share inspiration, and forward your wedding plans by leaps and bounds!
www.RainbowWeddingNetwork.com/expos

Also, if you cannot attend one of our signature events, certainly check out our trusted Online Directory... but always feel free to email us with further questions. We are happy to share our experience in the wedding industry this past 24 years, and to share further referrals to wedding vendors from our unpublished database.
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Quick Tips from the Pros...

I always use the analogy about choosing your wedding apparel (there are so many styles, types and colors) ...When you finally put on that very special suit, gown or tux and tears flow -when that reflection in the mirror is exactly the person you want to be- then you know without a doubt that you are done. The feeling needs to be the same with a venue. -When you get the fuzzy feeling about the venue and the wedding staff at that venue, who are excited to assist in the planning process with you, then you know that is your venue of choice.

Catherine Geer / Celebrations Distinctive Wedding Venue
Wedding and Marketing Specialist for over 32 years of planning and executing Weddings!
https://www.celebrationsweddings.com

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As you move ahead with your ceremony plans, and consider which Venue will be chosen as the ultimate backdrop for your celebration, we wish you ease, giddy anticipation, and a sense of adventure. Have fun with your planning process: it's a special chapter that will culminate in one of the most amazing and important days of your lives. Make the most of the entire journey!