Tips

Thinking about skipping the big wedding? You're not alone! Elopement weddings are on the rise—especially among LGBTQ+ couples and nontraditional romantics looking for a celebration that’s deeply personal, less stressful, and often more affordable. Whether you're dreaming of mountaintop vows, a courthouse kiss, a stylish city escape... or you're simply wanting to head to a Blue State to secure your marriage license, here are 10 essential tips to plan your elopement wedding.  Intimate, Intentional, Unforgettable... it's all possible!!

1. Start With Your “Why”
What draws you to elopement? Political uncertainty? Budget? Privacy? Adventure? Defining your motivation helps guide every other decision and ensures the day is successful, and reflects all that you want it to be.

2. Choose a Meaningful Location
Eloping doesn't mean you can’t go big with your setting. Think: the place you met, a national park, your favorite vacation city, or even your backyard. Just make sure it fits your comfort level, travel plans, and legal requirements.

3. Check the Legal Details
Marriage license laws vary by state—and by country. Some places require a waiting period or witnesses, while others allow same-day licenses. For LGBTQ+ couples, it’s especially important to confirm legal recognition of your marriage in your location of choice... And if you're visiting a particular state in order to secure your license long-term (after the possible overturn of Obergefell) then we suggest that you thoroughly check that state's constitution and existing laws. (Ideally, inquire with a legal expert!) Make sure there is nothing on the books that defines marriage as between one man and one woman; otherwise if federal marriage is overturned, the default definition may complicate the status of your own legal marriage.

4. Hire LGBTQ+ Inclusive Vendors
Even if your vendor list is small, it should still include people who respect and celebrate your love. Photographers, officiants, florists, and stylists should align with your values. (RainbowWeddingNetwork.com is a great place to find inclusive pros near you!)

5. Decide If You’ll Tell People Before or After
Some couples share their elopement plans upfront, while others opt for a surprise reveal. Either way, have a communication plan in place to manage expectations and share the joy.

6. Plan Your Outfits in Advance
Give yourself time to shop, tailor, or thrift your dream look. And don’t forget weather-appropriate layers (and footwear!) if you're outdoors. -You want to feel comfortable and also present the style that suits your vision!

7. Splurge Where It Counts
Maybe you’re saving money on the guest list—but that doesn’t mean you can’t indulge in what matters to you. Think: a luxury hotel, customized wedding rings, or a seasoned photographer.

8. Consider Hiring a Planner
Yes, even elopements can benefit from professional guidance. An elopement planner can help you secure permits, recommend secret spots, or even coordinate travel and timelines. They often have tidbits of advice to make your ceremony even more amazing than you originally thought possible!

9. Make It a Multi-Day Experience
Stretch your celebration into a long weekend or honeymoon-style trip. Plan a romantic dinner, a couples' photoshoot, or even a private post-ceremony toast under the stars.

10. Celebrate After With Family & Friends
Just because you elope doesn’t mean you skip the party entirely. Plan a reception or casual get-together later, or back in your hometown, to include loved ones in the celebration. And always remember to share ideas about how your friends and family can offer gifts. Is there a registry, maybe for a delayed honeymoon? Do you wish for gifts to be made to your favorite non-profit instead? Provide them with guidance that suits your style, so that they can share in your special moment: they truly wish to gift your joy!

Final Thoughts:
Eloping isn’t “less than”—it’s just different. Done right, it can be every bit as magical, intentional, and stylish as a traditional wedding. The key? Make sure the day reflects who you are as a couple.

Wedding Apparel... It's not always easy to find options that suit your own unique style. And, as members of the LGBTQ+ community, we're not always sure we'll feel completely welcomed in boutiques, bridal shops or when looking to get a tux fitted properly. Do you find yourself wondering which companies are truly LGBTQ+ friendly? -Which have experience customizing fashion for every body, and offer the respectful service each of us deserves? Read on for some great links, info and inspiration!

Unique wedding dress designers & bridal accessory designers that feel like you, from a&bé bridal shop....For the bride who relates to the modern aesthetic, the free-spirited ethos, & the romantic spirit. From their website: "Stuffiness be damned, at a&bé, brides are met with authenticity and eagerness. Expectations are tossed out the window and sincere celebration is a constant in every interaction."
https://aandbebridalshop.com/

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Bespokuture is a full-service custom clothing brand offering beautifully crafted garments, shoes and leather goods for men & women across the nation. We take our time, we don’t take shortcuts, and we hand-stitch amazing pieces that each client falls in love with.
https://bespokuture.com/

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Embracing non-traditional bridal fashion is easier when you’ve got incredible options at your fingertips. Explore Bella Sera Bridal, Inc.'s gender-neutral wedding styles, created by designers who support marriage equality. The company shares their LGBTQ+ values, and our collection, wrapped in a service culture of kindness, upholds them!
https://www.bellaserabride.com

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Formal wear options by Lila Pants for the kids at your ceremony! Be sure to read their "Our Story" page! Here's a teaser: "Lila had worn a dress, under protest, for her Kindergarten graduation. After that battle, I (Lila's mom) promised that I would honor her wish to wear pants, as long as she was appropriately dressed for a special occasion."
https://lilapants.com/

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Did you know that Macy's has a history of supporting the LGBTQ+ community? Historically, the company has actively participated in Pride Month celebrations, hosted events and campaigns to support the LGBTQ+ community, and partnered with organizations like The Trevor Project. Macy's also has featured LGBTQ+-owned, founded, and designed brands in its marketing campaigns, both online and in stores... and the company has created an internal culture of inclusivity. Macy's recently retired CEO Jeff Gennette, who is openly gay, has been recognized for his dedication to LGBTQ+ inclusivity in the business.

For your own wedding apparel, or that of your attendants or mother/s who are joining the celebration, consider the various designs available at Macy's! -Not just traditional bridal fashion: today's Macy's features jumpsuits, twist-front gowns with cape overlays, scuba fits, halterneck vests, cold shoulder blazers and much more!

Tuxes, sport coats, dress shirts and classic suit designs by Michael Kors, Calvin Klein, Tommy Hilfiger, Nautica, Van Heusen and so many others.

Check out all the options at Macy's!
https://capitaloneshopping.com/s/macys.com/coupon

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Dream bridal gowns within your budget, by WOMEN for WOMEN, made to measure, try at home, benefiting women's programs: Forget the "middlemen!" at Grace + Ivory!
https://www.graceandivory.com/

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Ruth Nathan’s is a purveyor of bow ties, pocket squares, and lapel flowers made for the Urban Peacock. Also offering fine face masks to match your festivity theme colors.
https://ruthnathans.com/

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Did you know... Men's Wearhouse is a committed sponsor of RainbowWeddingNetwork.com's (RWN) national tour of LGBTQ+ Wedding Expos? Representatives from local stores exhibit at nearly every one of RWN's events from coast to coast, eager to share their experience and enthused support with couples seeking apparel for their Special Day!
https://www.menswearhouse.com/

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Looking for those rainbow sneakers for all your attendants? Oh yeah, you know you want them!

Nike's policies to DEI initiatives, and its commitment to the LGBTQ+ community have not shifted in recent months, despite obvious pressures. In fact, for a little inspiration, check out this intro from the Nike 'No Pride No Sport' page:  "We’re continuing our commitment to helping shape a strong culture of LGBTQIA+ belonging and visibility in sport. We’re working to expand sport for the next generation through community grants, athlete partnerships, impactful storytelling, and products that celebrate the full spectrum of LGBTQIA+ expression. Because sport is better when all athletes are free to play as themselves."

Check out all Nike's footwear options for your engagement festivities, wedding day, and honeymoon!

https://capitaloneshopping.com/s/nike.com/coupon

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Looking for that personalized touch, and unmatched tailored fit? Morroni Custom Clothing for Men and for Women - Custom wedding suits, splendidly tailored, for over thirty years. Proud supporter of the LGBTQ+ community, their website states: "When our clients recite their vows, we also take the vow of excellence. That’s why so many couples use Morroni Custom to create a one-of-a-kind suit or tuxedo and shirt for the best day of their lives. We consult, design, and create."
www.morronicustom.com

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For more links, please visit RainbowWeddingNetwork's trusted Online Directory - every company listed is one you can TRUST to be LGBTQ+ welcoming!
RWN's Online Directory of Local Vendors

Planning a wedding is an exciting journey, but it can also be one of the most stressful experiences in your life. From choosing the perfect vendors to managing guest lists and staying within budget, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. However, there are effective ways to manage stress, stay grounded and even cultivate the fun inherent in the planning process. Here are 10 Quick Tips to help you enjoy this once-in-a-lifetime journey and maintain your peace of mind.

1. Start Early and Stay Organized

One of the biggest stressors in wedding planning is feeling rushed. Start planning as early as possible to give yourself plenty of time to make decisions. Use tools like spreadsheets, apps, or planners to keep track of your budget, guest lists, vendor notes, brainstorming ideas and timelines.

A well-organized plan can be your best ally! Break down the planning process into individual tasks, then set those into a clear timeline that can help you stay on top of things without feeling overwhelmed. Break the planning process into manageable chunks, tackling one priority at a time.

2. Set Realistic Expectations

It’s natural to want Your Wedding Day to be perfect, but perfection is subjective and often unattainable. Remember, no event is without hiccups! Focus on what truly matters -the love and commitment you share with your partner- and celebrating the miracle of that love with your friends and loved ones. Accepting that some things may not go as planned can alleviate unnecessary pressure.

3. The Uncertainty of LGBTQ+ Marriage Rights

With today's political climate, it makes sense you may be stressed about the uncertain future concerning LGBTQ+ marriage rights. The best way to ease your mind is to inform yourselves! -Resist taking in too much of the negative headlines, but find news sources that are trustworthy and check in with those sources routinely. If possible, reach out to LGBTQ+ community center/s and equality organizations: local groups are the most knowlegdeable about your particular area and what legislation might be in the works. Whether you've married or not, consider sitting down with a lawyer who is experienced with LGBTQ+ issues, to make sure your powers of attorney and other vital documents are in order, and as full-proof as possible. If you have concerns over immigration issues, adoption, or other important matters, again, be sure to seek trustworthy legal advice. ...And don't limit your communication with a lawyer to just once: at this crossroads in our country's history, remaining informed is our own responsibility! Build routines of gathering information so that you can realistically protect your own rights, and those of your loved ones.

4. Delegating Wedding Tasks

Whether you're eloping, planning a small gathering, or going all-out with an extravagant grand affair, keep in mind that you do not have to do everything yourself. You don't even have to remember all the details yourself! ...Delegate tasks to your partner, family members, attendants and friends. Hiring a wedding planner can also help take the weight off your shoulders, as they’re experienced in managing all the details and in making suggestions that may not have occured to you.

There are organizations such as Free Mom Hugs or PFLAG that often have volunteers willing to help LGBTQ+ couples with wedding plans. From walking you down the aisle, to offering emotional support, and sometimes to providing officiate and other services, check in with groups like this in your area: you may be surprised at the help that awaits you!

5. Schedule Breaks & Commit to Self-Care Routines

Planning a wedding can feel all-consuming, so it’s important to take regular breaks. Prioritize time for other activities you enjoy and social connections too, whether it’s a bimonthly hike, helping out at the animal shelter, game night with friends, heading to the local bar with your bestie, a little retail therapy, or a spa getaway with your fiancee. And remember, routine date nights are a must! These moments of relaxation can recharge your energy and your perspective.

In the hustle of planning your Special Day, and preparing for that new chapter of committed life together, don’t forget to take care of yourself! Try to maintain those important self-care regimens: daily exercise, meditation, time alone with your pets or favorite tv shows, regular visits to the hair stylist or chiropractor. Eating healthy, getting enough sleep, and staying hydrated can also help you manage stress more effectively. Continuing to cement healthy habits now sets you up for continuing them after the wedding... which ultimately will nourish your own sense of self-worth and happiness!

6. Set a Budget and Stick to It & Keep Communicating

Financial concerns are a common source of stress during wedding planning. Create a realistic budget and stick to it! Discuss financial boundaries with your partner early on, and prioritize expenses based on what’s most important to you.

Miscommunication can lead to unnecessary stress. Be open with your partner about expectations, budgets, and priorities. Regularly check in with each other to ensure you’re on the same page. The same goes for communicating with vendors, attendants and family members.

7. Find a Wedding Tribe

This can be hard to read, but not everyone in your family or circle of friends wants to talk about your wedding 24/7.  Honor that!  Find the friends who are all into it, or if you don't have any, then consider building some connections online with another LGBTQ+ couple or two who are also in the planning stages.  Having wedding buddies, who don't mind the constant nuptial updates, chatter and play-by-play commentary, may just prove invaluable to maintaining your own peace of mind, and the peace of mind of others in your world!

8. Get Crafty with Wedding Keepsakes

Indulge in some time online to search for DIY wedding favors, keepsakes and decor... Then plan a few afternoons or evenings with your partner, friend/s or attendants for crafting, sipping a cocktail, chatting, laughing together. Those intimate moments with the ones you love all add up to make the planning process an unforgettable chapter in your life!

9. Stay Mindful of Social Media Comparisons

Social media can be a double-edged sword. While it’s great for inspiration, convenience and making incredible contacts, it can also create unrealistic expectations. Remember that every wedding is unique, and what matters most is commemorating your love story in a way that’s authentic to you. Enjoy online connections, tips and inspo, but if/when it feels like too much, remember it's okay to step back and stay true to what's most important: Your own ideas, your own priorities, your own vision for that one-of-a-kind celebration of you & your beloved!

10. Focus on the Big Picture

When things get stressful, take a step back and remind yourself why you’re doing this. The wedding is just one day, but it marks the beginning of a lifetime with your partner. -A lifelong adventure of exploration, co-creation, growth, mutual support & triumphs and much more. Absolutely Your Special Day will be timeless and unforgettable, but the many reasons behind that day are truly the heart of the matter.

Back when our team launched RainbowWeddingNetwork.com in September 2000, every New Year -in a long succession- brought the prospect of unpredictability and volatility with regard to LGBTQ+ marriage rights. That settled somewhat in 2015, with the passage of Obergefell vs Hodges, but here at the outset of 2025, things seem back to the times of high uncertainty. What's in store for our weddings and committed lives together this year?? Color palettes, cake flavors and gemstone symbolism seem to take a backseat... Yet it's important to remember that these things too, are important. We have to empower ourselves by claiming our own celebrations, and that includes not just a vision for a future of peace and equality, but also a sense of FUN, of indulging in considering current trends, and of cultivating inspiration.

Read on for a mix of Quick Wedding Planning Tips from couples, wedding pros, and our team here at RainbowWeddingNetwork. Enjoy considering all your options and the possibilities of creating Your Own Special Day, just as you want it to be!

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Remember that at the end of the day... if you’re married to the person you love, your wedding was a success. Minor details (and sometimes seemingly major ones!) might go wrong, but don’t let that distract you from what’s most important.

Layering Meaningfulness: Be sure to choose rituals and traditions that resonate strongly for each of you. Take time to craft your vows, either together or separately, with the help of your officiant or your bestie, and add in at least some personalization - even if it's simply a favorite quote or lyrics from a song. On the Big Day, consider carrying a small token in your pocket or tie it to your bouquet: your wedding rings and photographs will be with you forever, but another small keepsake that you can carry or later set somewhere special in your home is an added way to bring that feeling of Your Wedding Day back to life. Offer a small keepsake to your wedding guests that is similar: a small heart-shaped stone, for instance, that they too can carry the energy of your celebration with them into the future. -It's wonderful, and highly symbolic, to know that others are holding the vision of your union into the days ahead. You may find it comforting to lean on that from time to time.

Make sure you have a schedule for the day - a detailed timeline - and that anyone who is helping knows exactly where they need to be! Even if to you if seems silly to need to explain it, this way you have all your ducks in a row and no one can say you didn't tell them what to do or where to be! Share it with vendors, your wedding party, and family/friends who will be in formal photos. It's not "bridezilla" to want things a certain way, it's Your Day!

Sit down with your fiancee and talk about the top 3 weddings you've been to, read about or even seen in a movie, and what you liked most about them. Think about the rituals of the ceremony itself, the way the readings or the vows were included... think about the reception: the decor, the vibe, the level of interactivity for guests... Then prioritize your budget by what you recall as the most fun, meaningful and memorable.

Try and make some friends with other couples who are also getting married that you can talk with excessively about your wedding, bc only other people getting married care as much - your friends and family may not be as excited and want to talk about it as much as you do... and keeping the momentum alive is important: Find even a small tribe that you can chat it up with, to make the most of this fun and once-in-a-lifetime experience!!

Including Technology: Digital save-the-dates and invites are totally acceptable these days, and great budget savers. And even if you're eloping, consider using technology to capture the milestone: casual videos may become priceless later, and are a great way to share your special moment! Having a more formal celebration? Remember that VR and live-streaming are amazing options for your out-of-towners!

Be sure to envision the kind of ambience you want to create with your wedding: is it cozy and feelings of warmth and gathering together? Is it a hyped-up dance party? Is it a spotlighted focus on you and your partner? Is it a sentimental interconnection of family & friends? What adjectives describe your wedding: playful, spiritual, sentimental, bright, rustic, colorful, heartfelt, lively? Use these brainstorming ideas to build the priorities of what is not negotiable in your overall wedding plan.

Set your budget together and stick by it. You will be tempted by a lot (glowing foam sticks, fancy black envelopes, additional favors) but try and stick with your budget. Consider purchasing gently used items, there are TONS for sale online. Some decor items are even in really good condition at the local thrift stores!

Sustainability remains a top priority for many LGBTQ+ couples. From sourcing local and seasonal flowers to using eco-friendly decor and catering, couples are embracing green practices. Smaller, intimate weddings or “microweddings” continue to be popular, reducing the environmental footprint.

Prioritize the most important parts of the event (photographer, venue, food, dancing, number of guests, etc, whatever you value most) and spend your money on booking those areas first! Everything else is just details and can be done on a budget with some creativity and time - for example, budget most for photographer and venue/food, but DIY the florals, including having your wedding party people make their own bouquets after the rehearsal dinner!

Stay organized and keep taking small steps forward. Wedding planning is A LOT and can be very overwhelming. Don’t be afraid to take breaks.

Unique Entertainment Choices? Yes, please!! Couples today are thinking outside the box when it comes to entertainment. Drag performers, queer artists, and interactive installations are making weddings more vibrant and memorable. Karaoke sessions, live bands, dance instruction and even unique options such as magicians, interactive keepsake stations, emceed couples' bingo games and other ideas also continue to gain traction: whatever suits the couple's interests and helps to bring guests together!  See RWN's recent article for further interactive ideas!
https://www.rainbowweddingnetwork.com/wedding-tips/unique-interactive-reception-ideas

Celebrating Chosen Families - Finding ways to include and honor our families of choice is vital to our community! From participation as attendants, with readings, mentions in toasts, or creating a special thank-you table with messages and photos, to announce just how important your loved ones are: all great ways to bring together and interconnect your special people. After all, LGBTQ+ weddings inherently highlight the importance of authenticity, inclusivity, and love. Make the most of this theme!

For more ways to connect with other couples and LGBTQ+ wedding pros, please visit our Tips & Articles page:
https://www.rainbowweddingnetwork.com/tips-planning

And consider joining RWN's lively FB group! Ideas & support abound!  (Many of the above insights came from group members!)
https://www.facebook.com/groups/LGBTQWeddings

Q&A with Michael Vescio – Director of Sales / Discover DeKalb Convention and Visitors Bureau

Here at RWN, we love to celebrate the advocates and allies who support the tenets of equality! Our voices are stronger when we stand together!

Congratulations to our friends from Discover DeKalb Convention and Visitors Bureau, on their recent award from the OUT Georgia Business Alliance. Their organization, Discover DeKalb, must be so proud to have received the prestigious Corporate Ally of the Year Award!

As the intro on their website states:
"Welcome to DeKalb, Georgia! In DeKalb everyone is welcome, so bring your authentic self — whether you’re an outdoor adventurer, craft-beer enthusiast, history buff, on the hunt for your next favorite meal, or looking for family-friendly attractions — DeKalb has something for everyone in the car (including the dog)."

Many of our readers may not realize just how much Convention & Visitors Bureaus, Tourist Organizations and even Neighborhood Groups do to support their LGBTQ+ citizens. These organizations provide residents and out-of-towners with valuable info about local events, businesses and attractions. Their staff knows firsthand the details about local cuisine, new start-ups, neighborhood identities, current happenings and much more, so they can offer helpful insights to both locals and tourists. Discounts and many other resources can be found through Convention & Visitors Bureaus; sometimes even hands-on services such as basic wedding planning guidance and trip itinerary assistance!

Hi Mike! Congratulations again, and THANKS to you and Discover DeKalb for all you do in supporting the local LGBTQ+ community there in the suburbs of Atlanta! Can you tell us some of the services Discover DeKalb offers?

MV: Please say “I Do” in DeKalb - yes, we offer free wedding services!
Itinerary /Packaging Services
FREE On-Site Parking at our 70 Hotels
Competitive Hotel Bids – in the Cities We Represent
Chamblee, Tucker, Stonecrest, Stone Mountain and DeKalb County
Restaurants/Attractions and Transportation Discounts
FAM Opportunities – Visit Our Area – See What We Have To Offer

Can you share with us some of the ways that Discover DeKalb specifically supports the LGBTQ+ community?

MV: Yearly Sponsorship with the Out GA Business Alliance
Sponsor regular monthly events – 4th Friday’s with the LGBTQ+ Chamber
Provide quarterly educational meetings to our Stakeholders, Board of Directors and Partners in the LGBTQ+ market
We participate yearly in RainbowWeddingNetwork's Atlanta LGBTQ+ Wedding Expo
Run print ads in the Out On Film Program
Run ad yearly in Pridely
An ad with GA Voice yearly in the Gay Destination Atlanta Guide
Also participate yearly with Black Gay Pride, Atlanta Pride and AIDS Atlanta
We developed an LGBTQ+ Destination Guide that won an award with the Southeast Tourism Society – Best Niche Marketing Award / This piece is displayed at the 9 GA state visitor centers – they have over 13 million visitors yearly
We have a staff member dedicated to this market – DeKalb is very diverse – we welcome everyone!

What are some of the highlights of DeKalb County GA that would most appeal to LGBTQ+ tourists or those considering a relocation to the area?

MV: Lips – Drag Dining - Doraville
Close to Piedmont Park – host of Atlanta Pride Festival
Mary’s – Karaoke Bar
Charis Books

As we all look ahead to a new Presidential administration, there is some uncertainty with regard to equal access and fair treatment for members of the LGBTQ+ community. How can Convention & Visitors Bureaus, Tourist Organizations and even Neighborhood Groups find ways to support their LGBTQ+ citizens?

MV: We just need to continue to support these events thru Sponsorships. Don’t just talk the talk – we must walk the walk. It is more important now than ever.

Are there broader ways that Discover DeKalb helps individuals get involved with what you're organization is doing, or helps individuals interconnect above and beyond your own specific services?

MV: Nothing any broader – just be involved locally, participate and speak up.

Why do you feel that it's important for organizations like yours to actively support, specifically, the LGBTQ+ niche?

MV: It is crucial for all Tourism agencies to support all markets – thru their money and involvement.

We invite all our readers to check out not only Discover DeKalb, but also their own local Convention & Visitors Bureaus, Tourist Organizations and  Neighborhood Groups...  You may be surprised at just how many resources are available to you, from saving money through discounts, to basic wedding and honeymoon planning services, helpful info about stay-cations, weekend adventuring and much more!  As you travel to other cities, check out their Convention & Visitors Bureaus also:  many have services dedicated to supporting the LGBTQ+ community!

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Michael Vescio – Director of Sales
Discover DeKalb Convention and Visitors Bureau
Direct: 770-492-5012
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https://discoverdekalb.com/

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One reason Weddings (and oftentimes the holiday season) fill our hearts is that we tend to focus more on noticing Joy... GOOD NEWS!  -It's possible to extend that feeling! There are many uncertainties as we journey toward 2025: Let's find ways to cultivate Love & Peace wherever we may find ourselves.

Gift Yourselves! Share your proposal story for the chance to win a Free Honeymoon, from our friends at Lovebird! -Digital Save-the-Dates, Wedding Websites, Guest Announcements & more! Make an exquisite first impression and manage every touchpoint in one place.
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Continue Uplifting Others - Our community is known for its motivation and committment to building connections! Remember to keep adding new ways of outreach, even through the New Year, to fill your own heart with joy and active purposefulness. Volunteer opportunities abound! Your local LGBTQ+ community center, animal rescue organization, assisted living facility, Habitat for Humanity and many others are great starting points: indulge in brainstorming about your own interests or hobbies and then find a volunteer opportunity that best suits.  Even if you don't have the time or inclination to participate in-person, remember there are always other ways to get involved:  crocheting lap quilts, sending handwritten cards, assisting with fundraising or administrative tasks.

Mentoring, or providing your own talents, are other ideas. Organizations that support LGBTQ+ youth are certainly in need right now. Or, consider offering your services as an officiant or amateur floral designer for another LGBTQ+ couple in the wedding planning stages either for their full ceremony or their elopement. 

Social Organizations - The local LGBTQ+ choir, sports team or hiking club are likely welcoming new members!  Allowing yourself to express your own talents and passions feeds your sense of happiness.  It's important to make this one a priority as much as possible!

Speak Up for Neighborhood Improvements - Finding ways to empower yourself through bettering the local area is a vibrant way not only to find fulfillment, but to make new friends. Is there a park in need of a clean-up day? Would you like to see bike lanes in the city? Reach out to local officials, or join advocacy groups. Even consider running for local office or interning with someone who already holds office - the ripple effects of your efforts are always worthwhile!

Create a FUN Community Event! Divisiveness in our nation doesn't have to be the way forward. Find ways to organize a 5K fun-run or neighborhood potluck or picnic, and base the theme on local history just to help interconnect people and create common ground. Amateur pet show or pet food donation event, or community bake-off, or book club..? Absolutely!

Random Acts of Kindness - We all know how nice it is to find that our order at the drive-thru has been paid in advance by the person ahead of us... Finding opportunities to pay-it-forward and to offer a helping hand are easy ways to sprinkle a little extra goodwill into your days.

Attend Local Workshops and Skill-Building Sessions - Community centers, libraries, and educational institutions often offer free or low-cost workshops on a range of topics. Attending these sessions not only helps you develop new skills but also provides an opportunity to meet like-minded individuals.

Meaningful Online Connections - Of course the internet offers incredible opportunities to find your tribe. It's not always easy to weed through the forums and groups that are not ideal, but be persistent and mindful: Engaging with people online can be so convenient, and a helpful lifeline in times of stress. It can also be a simple way to share Joy!  Check out RainbowWeddingNetwork's lively wedding group and meet couples from around the country, and the world!  https://www.facebook.com/groups/LGBTQWeddings

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Again, the months ahead hold a lot of unknowns.  But by keeping ourselves focused on what's most important:  sowing Peace, Trust, Fairness, Happiness, Kindness, Gratitude...  we make our world a little less divisive and a little less stressful.  By volunteering, attending events, supporting local causes, building relationships, and taking responsibility for your own sense of Optimism, you become part of something bigger than yourself. The sense of connection, purpose, and pride you choose to cultivate can transform your everyday life into one filled with Joy and Empowerment.

Looking for a few more ways to help your wedding guests actively enjoy your Special Day? Interactive stations continue to trend, from catered food selections to tabletop games, from selfie stations to dessert and beverage options that are self-serve. What about Favors & Keepsakes?

Creating an interactive area at your reception, for guests to contribute time and talent toward a memorable Keepsake for you and your new spouse... or Favors for themselves... is easy! Your Wedding Designer will have wonderful insights & ideas, but here are a few to get you started.

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• Interactive DIY Floral Arrangements

Set a nook at your reception with a table and all the necessities for guests to piece together their own mini floral arrangement: small vases or bottles along with optional paints or multicolored indelible markers (to decorate the vases), a variety of wildflowers, greenery, thin branches, long feathers, ribbons, etc... Add a sign letting guests know they're invited to become their own floral designer and voila! simple favors every guest can take home, with a collection of organic beauty and fragrance.

• Budget-friendly Tic Tac Toe Favors

4 short pieces of yarn... 10 faux jewels / gemstones / buttons of two varying colors... 1 small organza favor bag

Pick stones or buttons in bulk online or from the craft store, along with yarn and favor bags... Be sure to choose hues in your ceremony colors! Create one bag full of goodies for each family attending your wedding, and place in a basket on each reception table. You can add a sign, or not: it's fun just to let the guests discover for themselves what the game is inside!  Interactive in a different way, as guests set up their own gameboards and compete with one another during the quieter moments of your reception.

• Interactive Scrapbook Station

Invite your guests to create a priceless keepsake for you!

Create a table with all your favorite scrapbooking supplies: miscellaneous papers, crafting scissors, ribbon, wedding-, honeymoon and love-related stickers, unique embellishments, dried flowers and leaves, various photos of you & your sweetie, glue or sticky-dots... Be sure to set the full scrapbook up on an easel for all to see and to gather inspiration from others' contributions.

Or... Change it up and invite guests to create their own mini scrapbook or framed photo favor:

Provide mini-scrapbook supplies, or small undecorated wooden frames (buy in bulk in the DIY section - some are tabletop, others are magnetic) along with paints or indelible markers, stickers, embellishments, etc plus wallet-size engagement photos - a quick-to-craft Favor everyone can take home!

• Prayers & Best Wishes

Provide an assortment of stones (there are polished and unpolished in varying sizes available at retail stores, or scavenge for your own directly from Mother Nature during the months leading up to the wedding!), along with indelible markers and a large basket, vase or wooden bowl... Invite guests to write a single word of hope or a short message on their chosen stone, and place it in the collection for you and your new spouse to take home after the ceremony. The two of you will treasure picking a stone, either daily or whenever the mood strikes, to be re-invigorated by the well-wishes of your chosen circle of loved ones, well into the future!

Optional: also provide small notecards (thick cardstock preferred) of some kind, in case some guests prefer to share longer verses or words of wisdom. Can easily mix the cards in with the stones!

• Beverage Stations - lil keepsake box of recipes

Letting your guests play mixologist or barista?? Absolutely! Let them in on the fun! Be sure to have a deck of blank recipe cards nearby, or a special book, so everyone can jot down their favorite concoctions: it will become a special keepsake for you... and a guide for future party cocktails that you can share again and again!

There are countless ideas online about which beverage options to choose based on your preferences, the time, location, theme and season of your wedding celebration, your particular guest list, etc. But here are just a few of our faves!

Mimosa Bar:
Champagne or prosecco, a rainbow of juice options (orange, guava, mango, pineapple...), fruit wedges, herbs, pomegranate seeds, etc for garnishes. Offer peach puree as an option as well, so guests can create their own bellini if they prefer!

Mason Jar Cuties:
Prepare (or better yet, have your Caterer or Beverage vendor prep!...) your favorite sangria or custom infused cocktail in single-serve mason jars. The tops can be decorated with fabric, rustic bows, or just left plain for a truly folksy effect. Grab & go!

Coolin' Off with Mocktails:
Party pitchers or dispensers of water / lemonade / iced tea / juices, plus an array of fruits and herbs for infusing: mint, lemons, oranges, strawberries, raspberries, cucumbers, pineapple, limes, basil, ginger. Can ramp this up by setting vodka nearby for guests to partake if preferred!

ADD TO THE FUN of your Beverage Station by adding:

rock candy sticks (in rainbow colors, of course!)
edible flowers
mini umbrellas
cinnamon sticks
licorice sticks
fun-flavored lollipops for dipping
single-serve portions of cotton candy
customized koozies or coasters as take-away favors for your guests

So many brides, grooms and attendants in the LGBTQ+ community wonder about formal wear options for weddings. RWN had the opportunity recently to catch up with the staff at Tailored Brands, to collect a few answers!

RWN:  What are the basic services Tailored Brands offers? Do you offer resources for both men and women?
At Men’s Wearhouse we offer everything from casual wear to Custom Tuxedos. We service all people whether they are renting, purchasing or creating their own custom look.

Tailored Brands includes Men’s Wearhouse along with a number of other familiar companies: Jos. A. Bank and Moores; and family retailer K&G Fashion Superstore!
https://www.tailoredbrands.com/#

RWN:  Are clients able to try on apparel in your stores, the first day they visit? Are there catalogues to browse? What is the process for picking out favorites, trying on selections, all the way through making the purchase?

We offer physical and digital options. During a visit to one of our stores, one of our consultants will walk through the options and offer best suggestions based on the particular customer’s needs.

RWN:  What general trends are you seeing with regard to wedding apparel?
There’s an irresistible charm to a suit that never goes out of style. A well-tailored suit is a tried-and-true way to stand out.

A fine wool suit in rich navy or dark burgundy, perfect for the cool weather. There are plenty of dress shirts you could choose for this look, but for maximum seasonal spirit in the Fall, opt for warm tones like burnt orange or deep shades like a subtle plum. Swapping the typical silk tie for a bow tie or knit tie to add texture and intrigue to the ensemble.

RWN:  Do your store team members offer advice and insights to brides and grooms who may not be very familiar with dress codes, options and other fundamentals of choosing wedding attire?
Yes, Wedding season brings excitement and joy, but it also comes along with an age-old question—what to wear? Don’t worry, we’ve got the answer for you! We have a comprehensive guide that will help you navigate the world of wedding dress codes, giving you everything you need to step into any celebration with confidence.

RWN:  Many of the women we meet at our LGBTQ+ Wedding Expos are seeking customized, tailored suits... What level of customization do you offer? What kind of customization is available with regard to gowns? Are alterations done on-site?
While we don’t offer gowns, we do offer custom suits. We have tailors on-site and can also take in outside clothing for alterations.

RWN:  Are some of your services available online, or is it best for customers to visit in-store?
Most of our services are available online including our Wedding Group Manager. Use our online group management tool to coordinate your wedding party from day one. Assign looks, send invites to party members and keep tabs on progress to send reminders. But for tailoring needs, it’s best to visit one of our stores.

RWN:  What sets your company apart from others that offer similar services?
You can rent your tux or suit and return it after your event, purchase your look for a lifetime of memories, or build a custom suit and celebrate in a style all your own.
• Rental Best Price Guarantee
• Size Inclusive Selection
• 600+ locations nationwide

RWN:  What advice do you have for those considering the purchase of their wedding attire?
The advantages of owning a tuxedo are significant. First, the fit is unmatched; tailored to your exact measurements, it ensures you always present a flawless look. Then, there’s the matter of choice: endless styles, fabrics, and details await, enabling you to fully express your personal style.

Tailored Brands includes Men’s Wearhouse along with a number of other familiar companies: Jos. A. Bank and Moores; and family retailer K&G Fashion Superstore!
https://www.tailoredbrands.com/#

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Interested in further inspiration and options? Check out some of RWN's other favorite apparel companies!

Bespokuture
Bespokuture is a full-service custom clothing brand offering beautifully crafted garments, shoes and leather goods for men & women across the nation. We take our time, we don’t take shortcuts, and we hand-stitch amazing pieces that each client falls in love with.
https://bespokuture.com

Grace + Ivory
Dream bridal gowns within your budget, made to measure, try at home, benefiting women's programs: Forget the "middlemen!"
https://www.graceandivory.com/

Ruth Nathan's
Ruth Nathan’s is a purveyor of fine face masks, matching bow ties, pocket squares, and lapel flowers made for the Urban Peacock.
https://ruthnathans.com

a&bé bridal shop
...For the bride who relates to the modern aesthetic, the free-spirited ethos, & the romantic spirit.
https://aandbebridalshop.com/

Lila Pants
Formal wear options for the kids at your ceremony! Be sure to read the About Us page!
https://lilapants.com/

The very best tips for planning your wedding usually come from friends, family and other couples. -Sharing their recent experiences, others can provide helpful insights that are hands-on, thoughtful and really well targeted. Read on for a few comments from some of the couples we've recently met at RainbowWeddingNetwork's LGBTQ+ Wedding Expos, or through our lively FB group!

"We are big gardeners, so we had a very rustic look to our wedding: lots of wildflowers for decor, my wife's dress was accented with lily-of-the-valley embroidery work... The reception decor was so rustic, with little corners at the venue set with comfy chairs and chalkboard signs, etc. This barn-style venue offered long wooden tables with a family-style dinner, and again, lots of mason jars of wildflowers on the tables (and everywhere, honestly!)  But the unique part was that instead of traditional gifts, we requested that our guests donate to a fund to help us rebuild the garden in our yard, and for additional landscaping projects. We had recently bought a new home and this idea was just such a wonderful fit for us - made our wedding even that much more personalized and memorable: every time we work in our newly refurbished garden area, we think of Our Special Day, and all our loved ones who helped us feather our nest!"

-Janice & Kaitlin

"We needed a way to include out-of-towners so a live stream of our wedding ceremony and a bit of our reception made sense. We made a point to notify those family members who refused to attend (b/c they didn't support our marriage) and we notified them in a couple of different ways, hoping they would tune in. Some of them did! It meant a lot to us."

-Graham & Alyx

"Handcrafting our own wedding bands was an incredibly meaningful experience!  Highly recommend finding a craftsperson or jeweler who will work with you and provide you with this opportunity.  You and your fiancee will bond over this experience more than you realize, cherish the memories forever, and the wedding rings will be that much more customized."

-Jason & Derrick

"Not big cake people!! So we had an ice cream bar instead, with a variety of flavors from the traditional and the whimsical (cookie dough, rainbow sprinkles...) to the more refined such as mango and pineapple, etc. We also offered drunken sorbet (Nieve de Garrafa, really... The Sparkling Wine-spiked Coconut Passionfruit sorbet was to die for!)... Instead of the traditional cake-cutting ceremony to top off the festivities at the reception, we instead gathered everyone in front of the ice cream bar, opened a fresh bottle of champagne, and toasted each other. We even said a few words to each other that we hadn't gotten a chance to say during our vows (bc we're kind of chatty that way). It was really touching and no one missed the cake, I assure you!!"

-KC & Daniela

"We wanted to get playful with our guests so going with a theme wedding was the right choice for us.  We invited everyone to dress up to fit in with the theme (vintage, 1920's, plus hints of rainbow) and it really made things a lot of fun. One of the interactive games we played was 'Guess Who' to help guests circulate and chat with each other, and they had to take selfies throughout the game - it really worked out so well!"

-Hayleigh & Marche

"I think finding a way to include all the kids who attended in the ceremony helped them own the event a little bit, and helped them stay calm and focused throughout the rest of the wedding. What we did was give each of our nieces, nephews, friends' children (who wanted to participate) a basket of goodies to hand out to the seated guests as they waited for the ceremony to begin. Each basket contained either a fabric bag of flower petals, bubbles, one of our programs or a keepsake favor (a small magnet with our engagement photo and our newly chosen surname: 'Cheers from The Pelhams!' ...The kids enjoyed taking part, the guests loved seeing them wander through the aisles, and it made for some adorable photos."

-Adam & Danny

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