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Thinking about skipping the big wedding? You're not alone! Elopement weddings are on the rise—especially among LGBTQ+ couples and nontraditional romantics looking for a celebration that’s deeply personal, less stressful, and often more affordable. Whether you're dreaming of mountaintop vows, a courthouse kiss, a stylish city escape... or you're simply wanting to head to a Blue State to secure your marriage license, here are 10 essential tips to plan your elopement wedding. Intimate, Intentional, Unforgettable... it's all possible!!
1. Start With Your “Why”
What draws you to elopement? Political uncertainty? Budget? Privacy? Adventure? Defining your motivation helps guide every other decision and ensures the day is successful, and reflects all that you want it to be.
2. Choose a Meaningful Location
Eloping doesn't mean you can’t go big with your setting. Think: the place you met, a national park, your favorite vacation city, or even your backyard. Just make sure it fits your comfort level, travel plans, and legal requirements.
3. Check the Legal Details
Marriage license laws vary by state—and by country. Some places require a waiting period or witnesses, while others allow same-day licenses. For LGBTQ+ couples, it’s especially important to confirm legal recognition of your marriage in your location of choice... And if you're visiting a particular state in order to secure your license long-term (after the possible overturn of Obergefell) then we suggest that you thoroughly check that state's constitution and existing laws. (Ideally, inquire with a legal expert!) Make sure there is nothing on the books that defines marriage as between one man and one woman; otherwise if federal marriage is overturned, the default definition may complicate the status of your own legal marriage.
4. Hire LGBTQ+ Inclusive Vendors
Even if your vendor list is small, it should still include people who respect and celebrate your love. Photographers, officiants, florists, and stylists should align with your values. (RainbowWeddingNetwork.com is a great place to find inclusive pros near you!)
5. Decide If You’ll Tell People Before or After
Some couples share their elopement plans upfront, while others opt for a surprise reveal. Either way, have a communication plan in place to manage expectations and share the joy.
6. Plan Your Outfits in Advance
Give yourself time to shop, tailor, or thrift your dream look. And don’t forget weather-appropriate layers (and footwear!) if you're outdoors. -You want to feel comfortable and also present the style that suits your vision!
7. Splurge Where It Counts
Maybe you’re saving money on the guest list—but that doesn’t mean you can’t indulge in what matters to you. Think: a luxury hotel, customized wedding rings, or a seasoned photographer.
8. Consider Hiring a Planner
Yes, even elopements can benefit from professional guidance. An elopement planner can help you secure permits, recommend secret spots, or even coordinate travel and timelines. They often have tidbits of advice to make your ceremony even more amazing than you originally thought possible!
9. Make It a Multi-Day Experience
Stretch your celebration into a long weekend or honeymoon-style trip. Plan a romantic dinner, a couples' photoshoot, or even a private post-ceremony toast under the stars.
10. Celebrate After With Family & Friends
Just because you elope doesn’t mean you skip the party entirely. Plan a reception or casual get-together later, or back in your hometown, to include loved ones in the celebration. And always remember to share ideas about how your friends and family can offer gifts. Is there a registry, maybe for a delayed honeymoon? Do you wish for gifts to be made to your favorite non-profit instead? Provide them with guidance that suits your style, so that they can share in your special moment: they truly wish to gift your joy!
Final Thoughts:
Eloping isn’t “less than”—it’s just different. Done right, it can be every bit as magical, intentional, and stylish as a traditional wedding. The key? Make sure the day reflects who you are as a couple.
